I know I'm abrasive.  I know it's a flaw.  I have the ability to be very diplomatic, I can talk fancy and sugar coat any damn thing. Around people I'm close with, I drop the pretense and diplomacy, and just say things straight, efficient, with no prose.  Apparently, this makes me abrasive.  Alright, I'll take that.

Let's not mistake that for mean, or irrational, or dramatic.  In fact, it's the opposite of those things.  Any of those other things add elements, like emotion or intent.  My abrasiveness removes all of that. Sometimes, yeah, it's not nice.  You could be very enthusiastic about something, and trying to convey that, and if I'm not at all on the same page, I'll say so.  It's ok to disagree.

Just because your ego is hypersensitive doesn't always mean that I'm the badguy.